Why does my family hate me?

i am a middle age man who is suffering the pain and agony of divorce,the woman who i have been married to for twenty years is now treating me like a cancer.my wife currently has a restraining order against me and our 12 year old daughter wants nothing to do with me.our daughter has told a judge that she wants to live with her mother,why is my family doing this to me?the last time i saw my daughter i told my daughter that her mother was a clless disgusting human being and i told my daughter that her mother terrorized me for 20 years with her church functions and tupperware parties.the last we saw each other,my daughter told me that she wanted to start smoking marijuana,she wants to be like me,so my daughter and i went into the garage and smoked only three marijuana cigarettes.and my daughter and i shared a 12 pack of miller high life beer.my wife to pick our 12 year old daughter up and my actually yelled at me because our daughter was stoned and drunk,my wife yelled at meinfrontofour